For those with children: Do you think you’re a better parent than your parents were?

[ThaVirus]

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[mr. tegu]

Originally Posted by smithandrew051

I also don’t believe ANY women who say they’d be perfectly happy just getting married at the courthouse.

These women think about their wedding day from the time they’re little girls on. Then, they watch ALL their friends have their big days.

With as much as women compete with each other, I refuse to believe that not having a wedding day is just no big deal. They’re lying to themselves when they say that.

I’ve seen that the courthouse method can work, but it’s one of those things where both parties are truly honest about what they want and need but also with an understanding of what they are missing out on. Those things someone didn’t admit they wanted (perhaps to please the other) will eventually eat at them and can certainly be a sore point. I’ll definitely say though that if either or both are religious, the courthouse method is absolutely something that will carry regret and possible resentment.

[Frazod]

One of my best friends got married at the courthouse and they're doing fine 25 years later. Neither he or his wife was particularly religious or had a big family. They had a small reception dinner afterward, and then used the proceeds of what they would have spent on a big traditional wedding to go on a nice honeymoon in Europe. I would have probably been the best man, and I'd already been a part of enough big, overblown weddings that I was fine with one less. Cost me zero cash, time or grief. Got a nice free dinner, and that was that. Worked for me. Being a groomsman in my wedding was certainly more of a pain in the ass for him.

[ThaVirus]

Originally Posted by Rain Man

Should I be buying airfare to your Bachelor party?

Oh, and congratulations.

Thank you, sir!

No bachelor party. I’m old and boring these days.

Also, semi-related fun fact: I have never once set foot in a strip club.

[ThaVirus]

Originally Posted by Pablo

Good luck breh

That’s it. I’m locking this thread lol

[InChiefsHeaven]

My parents, God rest their souls, were born in the 1930's. So they came from a MUCH different world than the one they raised me in, in the 70's and 80's. We are Catholic, and my folks took that relatively seriously, so my 3 siblings and I were raised in the faith.

My mom was (and is) a saint. My father, well, he could be awesome and terrible, depending on the circumstance. Did he do everything right? Hell no, not by a long shot. But he loved us all, and we knew it, even if he didn't say it much when we were kids. He left that up to my mom.

In fact, I remember thinking that everybody else had ****ed up families, but we were just fine. It wasn't until me and the siblings got together about 15 years ago and started talking that I fully saw that we indeed had some stink in our family.

But in the end, mom and dad loved us and did their absolute best. What more can you ask? I'm now left with the memories of how I was raised and I compare them to how my kids were raised. They are 30 and 33 now, so I can pretty much see the results. Guess what? I'm not really better or worse than my folks were, all things considered.

Thanks mom and dad, you did a good job.

[mr. tegu]

Originally Posted by ThaVirus

That’s it. I’m locking this thread lol

Are you doing anything afterwards? Something that still makes it a special day where you take photos with each other and other family? Family gathering in some way? Etc?