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Yesterday, 01:59 PM | #136 |
'Stachecicle
Join Date: Sep 2003
Location: The Tolerance Box
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My kids are too young (teens) to know how they will turn out…but so far so good.
To say I am a “better parent” would be an unfair comparison given the vastly different circumstances of having kids at 19 vs late 30’s. I was more deliberate about getting established, getting married, then having kids. My parents went in the reverse order. But….they stayed married, emphasized good grades (college was never considered growing up), hard work, and we always had a roof over our heads. My Mom graduated HS, my Dad did not, but both were voracious readers, mostly westerns and romance novels…the example of seeing my parents reading all the time stuck with me. I set better conditions for my kids (graduate degree, career, married 4 years before kids etc.) and more experience in life than my parents. But I cannot say I would have done better if I had their starting hand. Last edited by trndobrd; Yesterday at 02:04 PM.. |
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Yesterday, 10:02 PM | #137 | |
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Join Date: May 2022
Location: Butler County Kansas
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Yesterday, 10:42 PM | #138 | |
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Scott City KS
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Wife is catholic so I didn’t have much of a choice in the wedding stuff. However, I was in a fraternity in college and it was apparent in the membership who took it seriously and who did not. Accordingly, I’d dress up for meetings and I was really big on whatever you’re doing, pay it the respect it deserves. I pretty much lived it. Studies, relationship, all of it. I came back to the farm and am dirty all the time, so that perspective has shifted a bit. I think as young people, doing the ritual things forces you to put the requisite attention on the important things in life. I think as you mature and develop your identity those ritualistic things that may have been a crutch before are needed less. At least that’s how I view it. My wife and I are rarely ritualistic with our relationship these days, we don’t make a big deal about anniversaries or birthdays or whatever milestones. But we love each other very deeply and I think we have a pretty healthy relationship. I think if we entered our relationship this way while we were young, dumb and immature it would look different. But that’s us. Maybe we’re just weird. |
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Yesterday, 11:55 PM | #139 |
Damnit Peg
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Overland Park
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1000 times better than my piece of shit dad, but not as good as my mom.
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Today, 12:54 AM | #140 | |
Has a particular set of skills
Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: On the water
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Today, 02:18 AM | #141 |
Tip of the hat LIV Champs
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: ks
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I wasn't a better parent than my parents, but my kids turned out to be better adults than me. I am very proud of them for becoming who they are.
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