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10 - Life is good. Not sure what everyone's freaking out about. | 26 | 10.97% | |
9 | 12 | 5.06% | |
8 | 36 | 15.19% | |
7 | 29 | 12.24% | |
6 | 18 | 7.59% | |
5 - Eh, it's fine, but not great. | 64 | 27.00% | |
4 | 24 | 10.13% | |
3 | 9 | 3.80% | |
2 | 6 | 2.53% | |
1 | 3 | 1.27% | |
0 - Dude. This sucks hard. | 10 | 4.22% | |
Voters: 237. You may not vote on this poll |
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04-09-2020, 08:45 AM | #2 | |
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04-09-2020, 08:58 AM | #3 | |
MY LITTLE #15
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I already practice this with my 4-year-old. Whatever his distraction is from doing what I tell him to do, I take it away until he does what I ask him to do. There are usually tears involved. If he maintains a bad attitude while doing it, I tell him he still won't get whatever it was he had until he flips his mood. |
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04-09-2020, 09:19 AM | #4 | |
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Like I said addiction. |
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04-09-2020, 09:56 AM | #5 |
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04-09-2020, 10:06 AM | #6 | |
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I dunno, I'm just a random guy on an internet forum but the only advice I have is to be a dick. I know that sounds rough and easier said than done but it works in the long run. I've told all of my kids that my job is to raise them to be good/productive adults and not be their friend until they have a family or on their own. My oldest is my stepchild but I've raised him since he was 9 (his biological father never came around). He was getting out of control and thought he could do anything he wanted. Took his buddies car out for a drive one night without a licenses (cops called that night to come pick him up), had straight F's in school, and refused to do anything unless I stood over him and forced him to. My last straw was him getting in trouble at school....again when he was 17. He got in trouble for having his phone in class and got detention. He decided to skip detention and get suspended from school. A few days later we got the letter from school letting us know what happened. I will never forget the night I sat him and his mom down at the kitchen table and I gave him his options. I told him as long as he is in my house there are rules and he broke them therefore he must be punished. He told me he would rather leave than be grounded.......so I pointed at the door. The next two hours were kind of a blur....his mom cried and I helped him pack. Gave him everything he needed, a big hug, an I love you, and told him to not forget to visit. It sucked, I cried, mom cried, and not much sleep for the next week. Fast forward 7 years and that stubborn asshole is kicking ass and taking names. He comes by all the time and calls to thank me for being a dick when he was younger . TLDR version.....it will be hard and sometimes you have to piss them off to get them ready for the real world. |
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04-09-2020, 10:37 AM | #7 | |
Suupraa Geniuuusss
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I've seen the problem you're having among many of my friend's children. Basically the kid realizes at some point that they don't have to do anything because their parents won't hit them with real consequences. Unfortunately it's likely too late for your stepdaughter to learn this lesson from you, but that's not all your fault. She also a mother and biological father that allowed her to become the twit she's become. But you have to impress upon her that at least one person in her life won't let her walk all over them, and that looks like it has to be you. So lay down the law in your house, and then follow through, period. Otherwise, there's a good chance that your stepdaughter will be a full-time crackhead hooker in a year or two. Good luck. |
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04-09-2020, 08:52 AM | #8 | |
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04-09-2020, 09:18 AM | #9 | |
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I have told her when she's 18 and not in school she'll pay rent to stay with us, she acts like that is so far away it's not even worth thinking about. She has no desire to drive...like I said her mentality is more like 12 than 16, other than dudes. As far as holding a job, I don't think she could hold one for more than 5 minutes.......she will not do anything she doesn't want to, she's standoffish with anyone telling her what to do including teachers etc. And the real issue is she is just SOOOO god damn slow. When doing a house chore it takes her forever. It took her 3 hours to do dinner dishes last night...I have a god damn dishwasher, she has no focus, constantly distracted. I just feel like there is no answer. |
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04-09-2020, 09:22 AM | #10 | |
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04-09-2020, 09:25 AM | #11 | |
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04-09-2020, 08:54 AM | #12 | |
Would an idiot do that?
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Option 1 is to study and contribute around the house.... option 2 is to start paying for your own food, cell phone bill, your own room, etc... option 3 is to GTFO (at 18, I'd assume, or else that might not go well). Of course, the flipside is no parent wants to end up seeing their kid go homeless or worse. My older brother was homeless for a short time (not because my parents kicked him out), and he got his shit together in very short time after that. |
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04-09-2020, 09:00 AM | #13 | |
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04-09-2020, 11:17 AM | #14 | |
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I can't recall if there was any "gotcha" moment or turning point in my life, other than knowing in the back of my mind I didn't want to live with my parents forever (I had to pay rent after I dropped out of school). Sorry - i've got nothing. Good luck. |
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04-09-2020, 12:12 PM | #15 |
Live free or die hard
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Location: Durango, CO
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I've learned how easy it is to cut your own hair with a good set of barber clippers. This may be a new thing for me.
Calculated a savings of roughly $400 a year. |
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