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Old 05-18-2022, 06:37 PM  
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When do you have a "talk" with your child's Coach?

So my Son is 8 years old and playing in competitive soccer. I will be the first to admit that on his team of 9 he probably ranks 6th or 7th. Maybe 5th on a good day. He is disciplined, works hard, knows his game but is just one of the slower kids and not the strongest shooter. Usually plays Left or Right Back.

The Coach has had a tendency to play him less than the others and generally I am okay with that because at times he plays quite a bit. Then some things happened and I am not real sure how to approach it.

In a tournament we won our first 2 games and were an automatic lock for the finals. The 3rd game literally meant absolutely nothing. My Son's Coach decided to play the "best players" into the ground and my Son got to play all of 10 minutes of a 50 minute game in a game that meant literally nothing. I was pissed but said nothing.

Then tonight at practice the Coach handed out MVP Pins to 5 of of the 8 kids that were there and one to a kid who was practicing with us but not on our team. He said they "tried hard" the last game. The irony is my Son played most of the last game and more than just about anyone else, and one of the kids that didn't get a pin had 2 goals. So the "they tried hard" crap doesn't seem to make sense.

I thought that was a pretty shitty way to handle that situation as we had 2 subs that game, it was very hot and all the kids played their ass off and we won 7-1.

Our Coach is 22, and it's his first year coaching a team. I try to keep that in mind. I also have to keep in mind that if I piss him off he could plant my Son on the bench the rest of the season. Also with tryouts for next season coming up in a couple of weeks, I'd hate to do something to jeopardize my Son.

On the other hand, I see it as I am paying good $'s to play in this league and a dick move is a dick move.

Anyone else been in a similar situation?
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:39 PM   #2
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:41 PM   #3
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Get your son to play for Steve Spagnuolo's soccer team and he'll have him playing 90%+ of the minutes
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:41 PM   #4
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Watch frank Martin and you will realize you never should yell at refs or meddle in the coaches business. I mean you can but it is wrong. You can either meddle and do some chiefsplanet things. Or you could let thrhe coaches coach and you parent
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:41 PM   #5
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:43 PM   #6
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Get your son to play for Steve Spagnuolo's soccer team and he'll have him playing 90%+ of the minutes
That's a thought...
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:43 PM   #7
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:43 PM   #8
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Have you asked your son what he thinks of the situation?

Maybe in a way that doesn’t put bad ideas in his head if he doesn’t see an issue. If he’s happy to help out the team however, then you might not need to do anything.
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:45 PM   #9
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Watch frank Martin and you will realize you never should yell at refs or meddle in the coaches business. I mean you can but it is wrong.
I generally don't want to get involved but when you see your kid getting discouraged because of dick moves it's hard to stay silent.

I tell my Son to use it as fuel to get better but still wanna tell the Coach he is being a douche to the kids.
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:48 PM   #10
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Gah.

You can't have 5:8 MVPs.

You teach him to have a sense of humor and to work on his weight training.
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:49 PM   #11
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Have you asked your son what he thinks of the situation?

Maybe in a way that doesn’t put bad ideas in his head if he doesn’t see an issue. If he’s happy to help out the team however, then you might not need to do anything.
He is the one that told me about it. He is such an easy going kid that when he says something it's usually not good. He was actually a bit more mad the other 2 kids didn't get a pin almost if not more than him not getting one.
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:50 PM   #12
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If you think he isn't getting coached then pull him out of the league.
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:51 PM   #13
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Ask his coach what things he can work on as a player.
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:52 PM   #14
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The MVP pins thing is bullshit to me. Coach shouldn't have done that. But if it is a competitive league, then I don't think you can complain about minutes unless your son is getting 0.

Maybe go to a more laid back developmental league where he can get playing time and develop his skills until he can be more competitive.
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Old 05-18-2022, 06:52 PM   #15
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If shit goes south can you beat this coach’s ass? That’s the first thing you need to consider.
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