So much petegeezus in this.
Stop worrying about stupid stuff Pete. I know he’s your world and you love him with all your being.
You want to improve his life for the better? Put him in a normal league.
Spend that $3k annually on a math/science tutor. When he “walks on” at local university with an academic scholarship and zero expense to you and the husband, and comes out of it making more than his father, you can then look back and know you did it right.