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GabyKeepsMeWarm · 03-22-2023, 11:45 AM

I've got a situation.

My dad died in May of last year, and I'm the executor of his estate. It's been a nightmare. He died without a will and sorting through everything has been an awful mess.

My father lived in Iowa, and he had a "companion" that he met online. I've been very skeptical of this woman from the outset, but how do you tell your 78 year old father he's being taken for a ride? His "companion" lives in New Mexico, and my father would go down to New Mexico during the Winter months. Dad bought a motor home and left it in New Mexico, giving her full access. However, the motor home was only titled and registered in his name.

Well, after dad died, I discovered this woman had the motor home retitled and registered in her name.

I've spoken to several lawyers, including the DA of the county in which the motor home was stolen, as well as the state police and local law enforcement, and I haven't gotten anywhere.

Law enforcement is calling it a civil matter, even saying that this woman claims my father gave her the vehicle prior to his death. It's incredibly frustrating. If her claims are true, which they are not, why did she wait until after he died to retitle and reregister the vehicle?

Every attorney I've spoken to is calling this a law enforcement matter.

It's like nobody wants to do their ****ing job, and I'm at my wits end about this.

Any advice?

dlphg9 · 03-22-2023, 11:49 AM

How many attorneys have you spoken to? Have any of them been in NM?

dlphg9 · 03-22-2023, 11:49 AM

Also go to the legal advice sub on Reddit.

**Bugeater** · 03-22-2023, 11:50 AM

I'm not a lawyer or a member of law enforcement....but you're hosed

GabyKeepsMeWarm · 03-22-2023, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by dlphg9

How many attorneys have you spoken to? Have any of them been in NM?

Yeah, I've spoken to a few attorneys in NM, including the DA in her county.

GabyKeepsMeWarm · 03-22-2023, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Bugeater

I'm not a lawyer or a member of law enforcement....but you're hosed

I really hope not. This situation has been infuriating.

htismaqe · 03-22-2023, 11:52 AM

There's a few lawyers and LOE's that could answer much better than me but it sounds like a civil issue, so I'm not surprised law enforcement is saying it is.

I'd have to think if the woman has nothing in writing giving her title to the RV and there's no will, plus she's not "related" unless they were considered common-law in NM. I can't imagine she'd have a legal leg to stand on but a good lawyer should be able to tell you for sure. You just haven't found the right lawyer yet. And DLP brings up a good point - have you looked for a lawyer IN NM? I would start there.

Balto · 03-22-2023, 11:53 AM

Wouldn't she of needed to get the title paperwork notarized unless she forged your fathers name?

displacedinMN · 03-22-2023, 11:53 AM

Sue her and get the ball rolling

Good luck.

**Rain Man** · 03-22-2023, 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by GabyKeepsMeWarm

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Well, after dad died, I discovered this woman had the motor home retitled and registered in his name.

You mean her name, I presume?

I don't know how she could retitle it without his signature. Did she use a death certificate to somehow circumvent the transfer?

It sure seems to me like a law enforcement issue. It's fraud if she forged his signature, and if she's not related and there's no will, there's no documentation that he gave it to her. I'm sure you already know this, though.

htismaqe · 03-22-2023, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Balto

Wouldn't she of needed to get the title paperwork notarized unless she forged your fathers name?

One would think.

Fish · 03-22-2023, 11:57 AM

Find a better lawyer. Easier said than done, but that's what it sounds like here.

AdolfOliverBush · 03-22-2023, 11:58 AM

Make her sign the RV over to you at gunpoint, strangle the bitch, wrap her in plastic, toss her in the RV, and put her in a hole in the desert. Sell the RV, enjoy your hookers and blow.

GabyKeepsMeWarm · 03-22-2023, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

You mean her name, I presume?

I don't know how she could retitle it without his signature. Did she use a death certificate to somehow circumvent the transfer?

It sure seems to me like a law enforcement issue. It's fraud if she forged his signature, and if she's not related and there's no will, there's no documentation that he gave it to her. I'm sure you already know this, though.

Yeah, I just edited my post. I don't know how she managed to get the thing retitled outside of forging his name and committing fraud. And correct, there is no documentation stating he ever gave her the vehicle. In my estimation, law enforcement is dragging ass.

GabyKeepsMeWarm · 03-22-2023, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by AdolfOliverBush

Make her sign the RV over to you at gunpoint, strangle the bitch, wrap her in plastic, toss her in the RV, and put her in a hole in the desert. Sell the RV, enjoy your hookers and blow.

Trust me, I've had some very unpleasant thoughts about what I'd like to see be done with this woman.

I haven't even had the chance to properly grieve for my father as a result of this horseshit. And if I wasn't a cynical bastard before all of this, this situation has really changed me in a way that I really don't like.

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GabyKeepsMeWarm I'll **** anything that moves! GabyKeepsMeWarm's Avatar Join Date: Jan 2022	Is Anyone Here a Lawyer or Member of Law Enforcement? I've got a situation. My dad died in May of last year, and I'm the executor of his estate. It's been a nightmare. He died without a will and sorting through everything has been an awful mess. My father lived in Iowa, and he had a "companion" that he met online. I've been very skeptical of this woman from the outset, but how do you tell your 78 year old father he's being taken for a ride? His "companion" lives in New Mexico, and my father would go down to New Mexico during the Winter months. Dad bought a motor home and left it in New Mexico, giving her full access. However, the motor home was only titled and registered in his name. Well, after dad died, I discovered this woman had the motor home retitled and registered in her name. I've spoken to several lawyers, including the DA of the county in which the motor home was stolen, as well as the state police and local law enforcement, and I haven't gotten anywhere. Law enforcement is calling it a civil matter, even saying that this woman claims my father gave her the vehicle prior to his death. It's incredibly frustrating. If her claims are true, which they are not, why did she wait until after he died to retitle and reregister the vehicle? Every attorney I've spoken to is calling this a law enforcement matter. It's like nobody wants to do their ***ing job, and I'm at my wits end about this. Any advice? Last edited by GabyKeepsMeWarm; 03-22-2023 at 11:52 AM..*
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