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#9871 |
¡RIOS MIO!
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Minneapolis
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#9872 |
BAMF
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: Your Face
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Play it cool. Relationships from college into real life don't exactly have a huge success rate.
I wouldn't put more into the "guy friend" thing than absolutely necessary. Date, live your life, etc. She may be clinging to the comfort zone of her old fling, but exploring her relationship with you. Or she may just be one of those girls that feeds off the extra attention of a guy in her hip pocket. Maybe she displays a little jealousy when she sees you moving on. That's your opening to let her know that you'd rather it was her, but you have no choice but to get on with your life. |
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#9873 |
Cheaterlover*
Join Date: May 2009
Location: RI
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I agree with Icarus. In the first place, despite what the young bucks out here think, it's actually a good thing to have friends, especially those of the female persuasion. It gives you insights into women, as well as a conduit to other women. Not to mention, it's simply good to have friends in general. If she's the only person you know in the city, even more so. And for your relationship with her specifically, in football parlance, "you can't make the club from the tub"; if you're not in her life in some way, you're "out of sight, out of mind". Haven't you see ANY romantic movie of the last 30 years? I think half of them involve people in the Friend Zone who, by the end of the film, turn it into something else. The older you get, the more you realize it's actually a beneficial idea to be friends with the person you ****, and actually enjoy being around them all the time, not just when they're on their knees in front of you. It's kind of essential, actually. It's a lot easier to move from friends to lovers than it is to find some stranger to bang and then try to move from lovers to friends, IMO.
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#9874 | |
Beloved & Awesome CP Celebrity
Join Date: Aug 2000
Location: Florida
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#9875 |
Beloved & Awesome CP Celebrity
Join Date: Aug 2000
Location: Florida
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I'm trying to get a date in with this gorgeous girl before I leave for Europe.
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#9876 |
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Somewhere Kansas
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Bring condoms.
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#9877 |
Beloved & Awesome CP Celebrity
Join Date: Aug 2000
Location: Florida
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#9878 |
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Somewhere Kansas
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Sure.
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#9879 |
¡RIOS MIO!
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Minneapolis
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Thanks for the advice, all. I'm feeling a bit more clear-headed this morning, and things ain't so bad after all.
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#9880 | |
Time to get hit!
Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: Springfield, MO
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I say don't be a door mat. Don't be readily available every time she calls. Do what you can to make new friends and date people. If something's meant to happen, it will. And, no, do no initiate contact...ever. |
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#9881 |
Everything is Awesome!!!!!
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: The Pitt
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i'm no expert (by a long ways).
sounds like this girl might be keeping you on the wayside just in case type of deal. nothing wrong with being cordial (nice guys do indeed finish last, some of us know this from experience). and there's nothing wrong with being friends. but let's all just remember, the devil is a woman. FACT!!! best wishes to you. |
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#9882 |
Everybody Lies.
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: 22 Acacia Avenue
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Never ever let it get you down. I've been there - feeling depressed over a girl that just wanted to be friends. Looking back on it now, I feel silly about it. And I still havent met anyone new really. But she didnt care for me in that way, I shouldnt have either. Watch some Seinfeld or something like that. Trust me you will feel a lot better
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Everybody Lies.
Join Date: Aug 2010
Location: 22 Acacia Avenue
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#9884 |
Take a Chill Pill
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: South Carolina
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So if a chick texts you at midnight asking what you're doing, that pretty much means she wants it, right?
**** my life for waking up at 5 am on a Saturday and falling asleep at 11. |
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#9885 |
Take a Chill Pill
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: South Carolina
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So if a chick texts you at midnight asking what you're doing, that pretty much means she wants it, right?
**** my life for waking up at 5 am on a Saturday and falling asleep at 11. |
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