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10-19-2016, 08:55 AM | #46 |
In BB I trust
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I'm not a divorce lawyer, and any advice on here is worth what you pay for it, but...
1. Do you and the soon-to-be-ex have any agreement regarding paying for college expenses for the kids? 2. While the kids are 18 and legal adults, have you had any discussion or has there been any though about who they will live with? Any consideration of paying food/housing cost for them? 3. You said you own your own business, I believe. What is your ownership interest worth, and how does that weigh against her German assets. Without question, if your ownership interest is worth alot, and more than her German assets, she may start rethinking this "yours is yours and mine is mine" approach. You can do a quickie divorce, but you should consult with an attorney. If you have a reasonably good one, I'd be pretty surprised if you come back and say he wasn't worth the money. Best wishes. Divorce sucks. But sex once every three months sucks worse. F that. Good luck! |
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10-19-2016, 08:55 AM | #47 |
Be Kind To Your Pets
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Hire Joe Cordell.
Then take a dump in your fridge crisper bin. Set the tone... |
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10-19-2016, 09:22 AM | #48 |
Resident Glue Sniffer
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watch "Divorce Corp" on Netflix.
that'll get one fired up. |
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10-19-2016, 09:29 AM | #49 |
Choco Favre
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Next step: get out of Hiawatha.
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10-19-2016, 09:31 AM | #50 |
Politically Incorrect
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Hire this guy. I hear he is a shark
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10-19-2016, 09:39 AM | #51 |
Starter
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It is life malpractice to at the very least not consult a divorce lawyer.
International property, retirement/military pension, real estate, children, at least 20 years of joint property. No form exists that can even get close. |
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10-19-2016, 09:40 AM | #52 |
Rabbi Goldmann
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Do whatever you can to reconcile. That's my advice
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10-19-2016, 09:52 AM | #53 |
Spiraling down the Drain
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Get out now. Fast.
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10-19-2016, 09:53 AM | #54 | |
Deus ambulans inter homines
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She doesn't seem to have a lot of emotional investment, and I don't know what assets you have. Does she have means to support herself post D? If no- assets are going to become a fight. If assets and finances aren't going to be a problem, & obviously no problem with custody issues, go the cheapest route and be free, but that's a rare situation. Sorry to hear. I know it's tough, and the biggest adjustment is getting used to new habits and routines no longer with a partner. I'd savor being single and take a break from even thinking about dating and find out who you are, what you like, etc.. A quarter century away from being single and putting family / kids first, I think you are going to find there's a lot of new discovery of your own and your interests and drive. |
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10-19-2016, 10:26 AM | #55 |
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Mine paid for the lawyer all had to do was sign. Haven't looked back since. I have said f*** it and started on my bucket list. Happiest I have been in years.
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10-19-2016, 10:48 AM | #56 |
Consuming CP souls
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F a midget yet bevis?
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10-19-2016, 11:02 AM | #57 | |
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When my friends talk about marital problems I always ask: "What can you do to improve the marriage?" They act like that never occurred to them. We cause our share of problems but I've seen several friends be patient on this and it does work out more than not. |
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10-19-2016, 11:06 AM | #58 | |
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10-19-2016, 11:15 AM | #59 |
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Sorry to hear about your situation man. Good on you for deciding it was time to do something about it. That's never an easy thing to do - but you'll probably be very glad you did it once you are through it. The whole, "life is too short" thing.
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10-19-2016, 11:45 AM | #60 |
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I filed my own divorce with an online service. It worked pretty well, although there were several filings that had recent rule changes that the site was unaware of and I had to refile. The court clerk was super helpful in making sure I had the correct filings before putting it in front of the judge. I'd say it was a real success overall, but we weren't fighting about anything. It also helped that california is a no fault state so there is no question of how the division will take place. It is 50/50, no exceptions. Check the statutes for your state in case there are complications. I used legalzoom. 275 dollars plus the extra 85 dollar filing fee for the rule change updates I had to refile. Not a bad deal.
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