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07-30-2020, 03:40 PM | #31 |
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Yes. I straight up left the workforce last September due to it. And I appreciate other's honesty here. Many in my circle don't understand what I'm doing, which is nothing right now. I heavily considered counseling for it early on but just gave into letting time take charge. It's really the only way to get over it.
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07-30-2020, 03:41 PM | #33 |
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I intentionally ****ed off my entire 20's before joining the rat race so I don't know about burnout per se but I've definitely struggled with work/life balance. I found balance in finding something that I like to do that doesn't involve anyone else, something personalized just for me.
Tomorrow I'm on PTO and am brewing a beer. I plan it weeks in advance from conceptualizing the recipe to purchasing ingredients to process creation to DIY equipment tweaks, all of which is a pleasant distraction and anyone close to me knows I'm not to be bothered with anything outside of a true emergency on that day. I'm not checking in, I'm not running it by anyone first, it's a day on the calendar I circle for me and it's something that challenges me to get better at which takes my entire focus away from everything else going on in life. |
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07-30-2020, 03:42 PM | #34 | |
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07-30-2020, 03:43 PM | #35 |
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07-30-2020, 03:46 PM | #37 |
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Lack of motivation and constant feeling of fatigue and sadness/anger could be manifestations of depression.
As the hormone levels change in aging men, many go through this sort of thing. My first step would be to see your doctor and get a referral for a good endocrinologist. It's possible you can fix this if your hormonal balance is restored. If you played football in your youth or did anything that may have given you concussions, you're at a much higher risk of this hormonal imbalance. Another sign of this are weaker boners or less of libido in general. I am not asking you to tell us how those things are going for you, but if you noticed a big difference, it's another reason to get your hormones checked. If your hormones check out, maybe consider therapy/counseling like others have mentioned. If that doesn't work, you may want to try to take the medication route. |
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07-30-2020, 03:48 PM | #38 |
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I've gone through what I call slumps, where I'm burned out and don't feel much happiness in things where I should.
I just got back from the longest vacation I've taken in a long long time, expecting to be rejuvenated, but I'm very fatigued. I do feel more relaxed. When I'm in a slump where I'm struggling with motivation, Just ****ing make myself stay on my feet when I get home from work, change my clothes and go outside and "do 1 thing". I'll go work in my shop, or spray a tank of roundup or just accomplish 1 thing before I go let myself sit and do the family thing. I've struggled with relaxing for a long time, and have too many side hustles sometimes. In short, I just make myself plow through it and stay busy and eventually come out on top. |
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07-30-2020, 03:53 PM | #39 |
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Unhappiness occurs when expectations don’t match with reality. It’s up to you to correct that imbalance whether it’s changing expectations, reality, or both.
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I also stopped drinking and drugs when I opted out. Didn't make any sort of effort, just didn't feel like it anymore. |
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07-30-2020, 03:59 PM | #41 |
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First thing to do is get physical exercise every day. Best is first thing in the morning. Doesn't matter what your fitness level is. If you can walk half a mile do it every morning first thing. then get up to a mile. Then walk a mile and right afterward ride your bike that same mile.
If you already get activity every day increase it and keep pushing. Everything in your life will be better if you get physical activity every day. Everything. |
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As for the OP, working out helps a ton, and a little pot to settle the mind has always helped. Just don't overdue it. Stick to the weekends. |
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07-30-2020, 04:06 PM | #45 |
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I hit the wall right around 46-48 years of age. What I did is I started saving money like crazy and built up a separate account with full knowledge on what my next step would be. That next step was to quit my job. I took about 2 years off just working on the honey do list but also things like fishing and golfing. Eventually I was ready to jump back into the workforce. I took a slightly lesser job but less stressful than my previous employment and am loving it. It doesn't hurt my attitude any that I have a little over 2 1/2 years until I retire.
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