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07-02-2017, 06:03 PM | #1546 |
Politically Incorrect
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Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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07-02-2017, 06:05 PM | #1547 |
Politically Incorrect
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07-02-2017, 07:33 PM | #1548 |
Mod Team
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Location: Valley of the hot as ****
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How long did you live together?
Did the living together start all the issues that came up or were there some before moving in together? |
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07-02-2017, 08:13 PM | #1549 | |
I'll be back.
Join Date: Nov 2002
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I knew eventually the urge to cheat on her would be stronger than my dedication to her and I couldn't hurt her in that way. And putting her through our upcoming family barbecue and vacation would be unfair, so I made the move before those events bonded us even more. I was very robotic and unemotional about the breakup, due to advice I had been given. This seemed to hurt her, but I knew it was the only way to do it given that her emotions would be running wild. This is tough for her because in a lot of ways because she was always very dependent on me, and this was really her first real long-term relationship. She gave me a sterling silver pocket watch with the most precious inscription I've ever read. It was something a wife gives to a husband though, not a girlfriend to her boyfriend. So I always knew she loved me more than I loved her. I did love her though. So when my gut told me that love wasn't going to last forever I had to do the right thing. It's best for both of us long term, even if she is now suffering in the short term. She will find someone else because she's too great a girl not to. Once she realizes that in six months I'm sure she'll be fine. Interestingly enough we didn't fight one time in 18 months. Last edited by Hammock Parties; 07-02-2017 at 08:27 PM.. |
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07-02-2017, 08:32 PM | #1550 | |
¡RIOS MIO!
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Minneapolis
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07-02-2017, 08:38 PM | #1551 |
I'll be back.
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07-02-2017, 08:48 PM | #1552 | |
¡RIOS MIO!
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Minneapolis
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I ask myself sometimes what person/situation would have me change my tune and I'm honestly not sure; that makes me worry that I'll pass on such an opportunity some day because it's not "100% right" and then not realize until later on that I missed out on something that I could be happy with in the long-term. Given that your feelings on/reasons for being noncommittal seem to differ from mine, YMMV on approaching that thought the same way. |
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07-03-2017, 01:24 AM | #1553 |
Consuming CP souls
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: U.S.A.
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I applaud him for making the move. Settling wouldn't have been good for either one in the long run and it would have been much worse if it stretched out longer. Kudos...
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07-03-2017, 01:52 PM | #1554 |
Inmem 2.0
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: My house
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I joined bumble I guess it's a better version of Tinder? Already have a girl hitting my line.
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07-03-2017, 01:53 PM | #1555 |
"You like to drink?"
Join Date: Jun 2006
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My friend suggested I get on Bumble yesterday.
I told him if I wanted to be disappointed my with woman-related options I'd hang out in Westport more often. |
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07-03-2017, 01:56 PM | #1556 |
Life is changing..
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Location: NW Missouri
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07-03-2017, 01:57 PM | #1557 |
Inmem 2.0
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07-03-2017, 02:03 PM | #1558 |
I'll be back.
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07-03-2017, 02:05 PM | #1559 |
Inmem 2.0
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07-03-2017, 02:05 PM | #1560 |
"You like to drink?"
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