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10 - Life is good. Not sure what everyone's freaking out about. | 26 | 10.97% | |
9 | 12 | 5.06% | |
8 | 36 | 15.19% | |
7 | 29 | 12.24% | |
6 | 18 | 7.59% | |
5 - Eh, it's fine, but not great. | 64 | 27.00% | |
4 | 24 | 10.13% | |
3 | 9 | 3.80% | |
2 | 6 | 2.53% | |
1 | 3 | 1.27% | |
0 - Dude. This sucks hard. | 10 | 4.22% | |
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04-08-2020, 06:16 PM | #586 |
King Shit of **** Mountain
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04-09-2020, 07:49 AM | #587 |
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04-09-2020, 07:54 AM | #588 |
Hockey Town
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Since you have some children........I'm going to ask you something.
What do you do with a 16 year old actually she's nearly 17 who literally won't do anything? When I told her about her school doing online stuff she might as well have said "**** that shit" and I generally say at her age it's on her, she's basically an adult but this is getting stupid. Her schedule consists of sleeping and staring at her phone and if you ask her to pitch in to do something, it doesn't go well. |
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04-09-2020, 08:23 AM | #589 | |
C Chiefs once a year!
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My older brother has a son with the same issue. He's a good kid overall that doesn't get into trouble and no drugs. But he is exactly what you describe. |
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04-09-2020, 08:36 AM | #590 | |
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Anyone that tries to hold her to a standard...yea doesn't go well. And I'll be honest we as parents are probably at fault for this to a degree. By the time she got to say 6th grade we had given up on making her do homework. Neither my wife nor I wanted to have a screaming session every single evening with her and then she still wouldn't do it. Her therapist told us to let her fail and have real life consequences...turns out she doesn't care about them. Then it became I'm really tired of this shit ruining my evening everyday. I just don't know what to do with a person that has no hobbies, no interests, and is hopelessly addicted to their phone and doing nothing. Staring at snapchat and facebook all day isn't really a hobby. I told my wife that I just don't know what to do with her, if you aren't good at something I can accept that, but when you have no want to, no drive, no passion for anything what do I do with that? Even simple household chores are frustrating...and even though she is nearing 17, you'd think she was more like 12, it's like she has no concept she is about to be an adult and needs to grow up. |
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04-09-2020, 08:45 AM | #591 | |
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04-09-2020, 08:50 AM | #592 | |
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When I was a kid....I hated school and ended up graduating with a shitty gpa. I’m doing good now but it took me a while and I basically had to luck into my profession. Find out what she wants to do after high school and then figure out what she needs to get there. Try and lay it out for her. |
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04-09-2020, 08:52 AM | #593 | |
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04-09-2020, 08:53 AM | #594 |
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Work is slow. So instead of going in and doing not much for a full day, I’m using PTO and taking today off.
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04-09-2020, 08:54 AM | #595 | |
Would an idiot do that?
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Option 1 is to study and contribute around the house.... option 2 is to start paying for your own food, cell phone bill, your own room, etc... option 3 is to GTFO (at 18, I'd assume, or else that might not go well). Of course, the flipside is no parent wants to end up seeing their kid go homeless or worse. My older brother was homeless for a short time (not because my parents kicked him out), and he got his shit together in very short time after that. |
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04-09-2020, 08:56 AM | #596 |
Would an idiot do that?
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04-09-2020, 08:58 AM | #597 | |
You think you can get by this?
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I already practice this with my 4-year-old. Whatever his distraction is from doing what I tell him to do, I take it away until he does what I ask him to do. There are usually tears involved. If he maintains a bad attitude while doing it, I tell him he still won't get whatever it was he had until he flips his mood. |
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04-09-2020, 09:00 AM | #598 | |
You think you can get by this?
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04-09-2020, 09:18 AM | #599 | |
Hockey Town
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I have told her when she's 18 and not in school she'll pay rent to stay with us, she acts like that is so far away it's not even worth thinking about. She has no desire to drive...like I said her mentality is more like 12 than 16, other than dudes. As far as holding a job, I don't think she could hold one for more than 5 minutes.......she will not do anything she doesn't want to, she's standoffish with anyone telling her what to do including teachers etc. And the real issue is she is just SOOOO god damn slow. When doing a house chore it takes her forever. It took her 3 hours to do dinner dishes last night...I have a god damn dishwasher, she has no focus, constantly distracted. I just feel like there is no answer. |
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04-09-2020, 09:19 AM | #600 | |
Hockey Town
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Like I said addiction. |
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