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Clint in Wichita · 01-23-2006, 11:07 AM

Is online flirting, when you know your S.O. disapproves, OK because you "are only flirting online and not in the real world"?

My opinion (surprise, surprise) is that it's not OK, period. It's said to be OK because it's not face-to-face, and online it's just fun and games.

I call bullshit. People meet online friends in person all the time. They even meet their future spouses online. The "it's only online" argument is bogus.

I would also imagine that many of those who feel it's OK would be less than eager to have their own S.O.s discover their activity.

Thoughts?

**Baby Lee** · 01-23-2006, 11:09 AM

Was there an orgasm?

**Skip Towne** · 01-23-2006, 11:10 AM

I would never do such a thing. But I'll bet Rainman would.

Hoover · 01-23-2006, 11:11 AM

I had to put Gaz on ignore because of this. All those Hugs and Kisses at the end of each message really made me uncomfortable.

**mlyonsd** · 01-23-2006, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Hoover

I had to put Gaz on ignore because of this. All those Hugs and Kisses at the end of each message really made me uncomfortable.

I think he's harmless. I would only worry if he offers you a Tequila Rose in a glass that you didn't watch him pour.

**Bowser** · 01-23-2006, 11:15 AM

I think when someone goes behind a SO's back and flirts online, it's easier to shrug it off as "innocent". Is it right? Probably not. But this sounds like it's more of a problem with communication between the two spouses. Personally, I probably wouldn't be comfortable with it.

The question is, is it a regular occurance with this SO?

**Saulbadguy** · 01-23-2006, 11:17 AM

I would say if the SO is open about it, and doesn't try to hide it, it's all innocent fun.

If they go out of their way to hide it, it's wrong.

Clint in Wichita · 01-23-2006, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Saulbadguy

I would say if the SO is open about it, and doesn't try to hide it, it's all innocent fun.

If they go out of their way to hide it, it's wrong.

My thoughts exactly.

**ChiTown** · 01-23-2006, 11:21 AM

As long as thy dont perfect the technology so as to get cyber-spew on my wife's face, I'm ok with it. That said, I generally keep my wife locked up in a dungeon...................

Infidel Goat · 01-23-2006, 11:17 AM

Did Oprah steal Clint's log-in?

I mean, really, he just started a thread about on-line flirting.

--Infidel Goat

**mlyonsd** · 01-23-2006, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Infidel Goat

Did Oprah steal Clint's log-in?

I mean, really, he just started a thread about on-line flirting.

--Infidel Goat

If he follows it up with a "Good books to read" thread you might be onto something.

Katipan · 01-23-2006, 11:18 AM

Dear Lord.

I don't even care if my man flirts with the waitress bringing our beer. Much less some lonely girl on the internet.

Clint in Wichita · 01-23-2006, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Mer

Dear Lord.

I don't even care if my man flirts with the waitress bringing our beer. Much less some lonely girl on the internet.

Keep in mind that "flirting" can cover an awful lot of territory...especially online. I'm not just talking about a giggle or a wink.

Of course, some people feel nothing is wrong until bodily fluids are exchanged.

Katipan · 01-23-2006, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Clint in Wichita

Keep in mind that "flirting" can cover an awful lot of territory...especially online. I'm not just talking about a giggle or a wink.

Of course, some people feel nothing is wrong until bodily fluids are exchanged.

Eh. It's nothing against how anyone else feels. I adore Iowanni and I think his philosophy is nuts too. But since I don't get to date him, I'll just have to accept that it works for his relationship.

There are more than a couple flirty PMs in my box. But I wouldn't hide a damn one of them from my guy.

**Iowanian** · 01-23-2006, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Mer

Eh. It's nothing against how anyone else feels. I adore Iowanni and I think his philosophy is nuts too. But since I don't get to date him, I'll just have to accept that it works for his relationship.

There are more than a couple flirty PMs in my box. But I wouldn't hide a damn one of them from my guy.

Lets clarify something specifically.
I'm very confident in my relationship and the job I do at home. I have no reason to be jealous of anything my wife does. Initially, I didn't like it that she was still friendly with a former long term boyfriend, but once I met the guy, I could care less if they talk on the phone twice a year, or if she wants to have a drink with him and other friends at their class reunion that I hope to dodge again.

For the most part....I'm the one dinking around online, and if she is, its asking other hens about home remedies for infant constipation.

Under other circumstances, with another woman, with other morals and scruples than the one I chose to be with.....my story might go a little different.

I trust her, and I'd let her read anything here or in my email she wanted. She doesn't ask, because she trusts me, but she could.

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Clint in Wichita Veteran Clint in Wichita's Avatar Join Date: Aug 2000	Online flirting Is online flirting, when you know your S.O. disapproves, OK because you "are only flirting online and not in the real world"? My opinion (surprise, surprise) is that it's not OK, period. It's said to be OK because it's not face-to-face, and online it's just fun and games. I call bullshit. People meet online friends in person all the time. They even meet their future spouses online. The "it's only online" argument is bogus. I would also imagine that many of those who feel it's OK would be less than eager to have their own S.O.s discover their activity. Thoughts? Last edited by Clint in Wichita; 01-23-2006 at 04:25 PM..
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