Read the book healing back pain by Dr. John Sarno MD.
Edit: To add, Been dealing with similar issues for years. I have gone through three epidural steroid shots, and was literally laying in pre-op to have surgery when the surgeon point blank told me that he, personally, wouldn't have the surgery. I got up and left the hospital...On a recommendation from a friend, I read this book. It has helped me more than anything else.
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