There is only one situation in which this is OK: if the guy is 100% undeniably gay. And I don't mean COULD be gay, I mean no question in your mind that the dude takes it in the poop chute gay.

Sorry RustShack, but as others have stated already, game over.

This isn't why you sent me a friend request is it??

There's no way I would let that happen unless I knew the guy. Every guy is trying to get some all the time, but some always at varying degrees. How long is "a while?"

Lindsay Lohan is looking for a new boyfriend....

As I've said before, take her out, get her really drunk, take her back to her house, use her like a roll of paper towels, steal $40 from her purse, take a dump in her fridge crisper bin, disappear, never call her again.

Ten years from now she'll be a smile on your face that your wife won't understand.

That was a great story up until the "wife" part. Why ruin a good thing??

ROFL


I'd love to have that story to tell my friends. "So, I got her drunk, ****ed her in the ass - HARD - and when she passed out, I shit in her fridge."

If there were any more red flags your life would be a Red Square parade. Ditch her NOW!!!

You got one, too?

You're a beautiful woman.

I accepted his friend request a few days ago

Sounds like she doesn't want to move in with you.

The goddamn plane has crashed into the mountains and there are no survivors in this one.

Relationship over. Sorry man

Hey, Rust, man...doesn't sound good. I'm not saying she is 100% guilty, but that is uncool.

I think the part that is scary is you don't know her friends. My wife and I know all of each other's friends. I talk about my wife all of the time, anyway. If she doesn't want you to be around her friends there is a problem unless it is some sort of exclusive hen's night or something. To all of our friends, on either side, it is me and my wife or vice versa. It is never just me or just her.

As for male friends, it is possible for them to exist, but most of the ones that don't want to bone her are good friends with me also. I have some friends that are female that I have no intention of ****ing. It is possible, but if your girl isn't willing to include you, there are problems, not necessarily cheating, but problems with the relationship.

I think the best thing to do is be open, honest, and explicit with your concerns. She may get pissed, but at some point during the relationship you will have to communicate. If you can't do it now, whether or not she is cheating, there will be problems later.
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i imagine all the old guys on here been through hell in back with bitches

be strong though, don't fall into the trap of being bored and still dating her. cut your losses drink whiskey and move on like a wayne jennings listening bad mother fer

I dated a girl named Helen Back once. It didn't end well.

I agree w/ all the other posters... I think ur hosed. However, it might be early enough to fight for her. Meaning, if u truly love this girl... tell her how much u love her, spend time w/ her, and talk to her, tell her that u don't approve of her hanging out w/ her new "friends". That's all u can do.

be a man about it, don't be a pussy and cry and beg and sound desperate. Girls hate that shit, hell guys do too

You.....have......NO IDEA.

I WANT MY RECORDS BACK....

I WANT MY RECORDS BACK!!!!!!

I believe it's a chick giving that advice. All women are different.

Oh, and sorry if I'm wrong, Lumpy.

Just talk to her. You don't have to go all caveman either. "It's my way or the highway" is as much a sign of insecurity as "oh god baby don't leeeeeave me". You're adults. Act like it.

I see...

Girls want to know they are loved and the guy will fight for them, but at the same time if you believe in your game then you won't come off a certain way and turn her off even more, keyword be a man should be enough for him

Move on...quickly....if you haven't already.

I wasn't saying be a caveman and go ape, he just needs to be confident with himself when talking to her, im sure he's a bit insecure right now

Wasn't saying you were, was just using you as my quotational diving board into the larger discussion.

I would never go out with a girl that my wife is not familiar or comfortable with because I respect her. In turn she wouldn't do the the same to me. That is how a successful relationship works. If she can't respect you that way then maybe she isn't the right one for you. There are plenty of nice young ladies out there that are ready for a real relationship if she is not.

haha its ok, i didn't know for sure...but definetly agree with acting like an adult about it, even if she isn't

Nope, ur correct Luv. I don't have a penis... eh, the last time I checked.

Maybe she thinks that albert IS going to be a GREAT LT and doesnt agree he should/could be moved, she understands that he will leave for the money if we make him a RT.

sorry man had to do it, on a real note RUN get the **** away from this girl.

Been there done that not pretty! It's the curb for her!!!

this guy is right on here

Curb as in, let her go or Curb as in american history x, where norton "curbs" thats guy:eek:

Beat me to it.
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:D

I had a buddy that did things like this. He'd crap in the hamper and then grab the gals VCR on his way out the door.

I agree with you. Guarenteed mixed group, if she doesn't invite you along...there is a reason for it.

Girls/Guys nights out are one thing.

This is another. She is going out with another guy, even if it IS in a group setting, she is checking the stock, flirting and trying to test the waters of singlehood.

As soon as she has hooked another guy, you are going to get hurt.

Cut bait and run. You'll come out feeling better about yourself. She is in no way shape or form ready to move in with you.

All the psychobabble bullsh*t about feeling smoothered and wanting "her own time" is lipservice to justify it.

Unless the girl you are dating is 16 or reeruned... she is f-ing you over. She may not be cheating, she may not be thinking about cheating... but she is being completely selfish and naive (AT BEST.. let's not even touch upon what she is AT WORST).

You can confront her and hope it works out... but odds are... you do NOT want to continue on with her.

Easier said than done... but best advice is to cut ties as soon as you feel you can.

Sorry for being so harsh, but the fact is.. I know this situation and you need to be very careful about making excuses for her. It is an easy trap to fall into.

That's ok, neither does the op apparently. ;)

Could not agree more with everything that has been said by you guys. The only way something like this would be permissible in my books is if she were going with a long-time friend who I also knew. In that case, it would be different. But some dude from the bar who is clearly trying to dart her mitt??? No fing way.

That said, you've got a golden opportunity here. You essentially know that this is prolly not someone you want to be serious with (unless there is some remarkable explanation for this type of behavior that I cannot think of) and you need to take advantage of that fact.

You need to to anything and everything that you've ever wanted (anal, on a pool table, underwater, alligator **** house, etc). Really push the envelope with things, and see what kind of crazy shit you can do. Basically, do all the things you would not want to do to someone you care about. If she gets offended, who cares, you're not serious anyway.

Once you've exhausted all possible ideas, cut her loose.

That's mean. ROFL How do u suppose u would react if u were in his situation there Mr Gonzo?

All this online advice we have been giving him is nice and dandy but if the dude has feelings for the girl, he's devastated right about now. It's never easy to break things off, especially after years of seeing each other. Stay strong, man.

Ask her why isn't it ok for you to come with?

That's kinda a huge red flag. If it seems fishy, it's probably fishy business going on. just sayin.

There are a lot of fish in the sea, I would get out now before you move in and shit really hits the fan down the road and you've put yourself in a horrible position.

Agreed, easier said than done...it sucks, hopefully things work out for him

Agreed. Especially if you haven't known the guy for long. I mean, I have guy friends that I've known since I was practically born that I wouldn't ever go to a movie with alone...maybe dinner or happy hour, but never a movie.

And yes, he is.

I have a feeling her bitter single friend is trying to keep her single as well.

I don't understand all the "cut her loose" advice. For the sake of the time and emotion invested in the relationship, talk to her. She may just be having cold feet about moving in together.

I'm married to a good woman so I'm not worried about it there tastycakes.

However, if she were to do something like this, I sure as hell wouldn't sit around and ask for advice from these guys. I'd be living out of the pay by hour motel while contacting legal representation.

Sorry dude, unless this guy is a pillowbiter they've most likely already ****ed.

I learned a long time ago that, if you can't trust someone, they aren't worth being in a relationship with.

Obviously, since you brought up the fact she doesn't like going to the bars with you, you have breathed down her neck about it before...and it makes you come off as insecure, and girls HATE insecurity.

so I hate to say it, but it's a lost cause...it's not even talk worthy...she's moved on she just "cares" about you too much and doesn't know how to break it to you...

Sucks dude...I remember all throughout my first relationship I had the girl in my back pocket...I could break up with her, do whatever I wanted...hang out with my friends...basically treat her like shit and she'd run back to me every time because she couldn't "have" me (or some gay shit like that)...

Then I went away to school and started hearing these rumors about this girl "moving on"...which I took as a personal challenge...and so obviously I just HAD to get her back...and did...but suddenly she had the power over me...and suddenly I became jealous and stared asking questions and then it just all fell apart and HONESTLY, I would never do that to myself again...once a girl like that gets the power she starts doing shit like going out and not wanting you around, hitting movies with "just a friend"...it was a learning experience for me.

It's best for you to play it cool, flat out dump the bitch (even if that's the last thing you want to do), and act like a badass about it (because at least then you'll have the satisfaction of breaking things up that were pined for disaster anyways...and believe me it'll hurt her more if you break up with her because she thinks she's playing you)...

Just remember, because it's true, time does heel all wounds...no matter how much time you spent with the whore there will always be the next whore.

when things go bad for me in any part of my life...I just think to myself..."will I care in 5 years?" and then I get really drunk and have my roommate pee on me and all of my problems disappear!

This is why asking for life advice on the CP is generally not such a good idea.

I get your point, but really I dont see what the difference is between going to dinner or going to a movie. Is a movie supposed to be more "date-ish" ?

Never a movie?Unless it's a drive-in theatre I would think happy hour would be the NEVER here,but then again the happy hours I attend are very happy.

And if he is a pillowbiter he has probably felt her up. To see if they'd be the right size set for him if he goes tranny.

Where's Buddha? He surely has some appropriate advice here....

If my wife ever fell in love (or lust) with someone else, I'd be devastated. I admit, I'd be completely broken.

However, if added to that was the fact that she had been pulling the wool over my eyes for any amount of time, it would be (hard to imagine) even worse. I think most of the "cut her loose" stuff comes from that place. I don't agree with that, I think the guy needs to have a very long sit down with her. But, from the information we've been given, it looks like that's going to be the deal whether he likes it or not. I think guys, as a general rule (and especially on the intrawebs) want to come off as macho and tough as possible, and it's also coming from that place.

yeah, I think so. If I want to hang out with a guy and chat, I go to a bar, watch a game, or have some dinner somewhere very casual with lots of people around. But if I were to want something more or have something more with someone, then a movie isn't quite as friendly and seems more intimate and alone. This is just me though.

RustShack just needs to drown his sorrows and listen to some torch songs
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this dude sounds like he's about my age...

If this girl is cutting him out of her social life...and going to movies with dudes she meets at bars (and he's only telling HER candy coated story...chances are she texts these dudes like crazy...I know how these sluts with boyfriends work...I've banged a ton of chicks with "boyfriends")...she doesn't have cold feet. She's flat out done with ol' rustshack...

It sucks. This is why you never give a girl the power in the relationship...

I keep my bitches tucked away in my back pocket!

your relationship has jumped the shark, sorry....


there is no way what you have described is kosher...and no one who really gave a shit about you would do such a thing...

Right on the money. Guys CAN NOT just be friends with chicks, no matter what SHE says. Give anyone enough rope and they will hang themselves.

WTF? LMAO

I'm starting think our Hootie was also Midnight Vulture

I think sometimes they can though. I have guys who I took baths with when I was 2, you know? Their parents were best friends with mine. They're like brothers and the thought of being with any of them in that kind of way is just gross.

Sorry RustShack, but you should end this relationship on your terms right now.

Especially if its your house. Break up now, instead of finding out shes been cheating on you 6 months down the line. Don't put more money into this bank that is undeniably going to lose all your money.

To be fair, though, in one of those cases...you aren't exactly the guy's "type."

You've never heard that expression? One of the best IMO

A quick search of Rustshack's profile says he's 20 years old and lives in the 'Loo. Katipan, quit going to movies with other guys. :D

and why would anyone under 30 want to move in with someone from the opposite sex?

I've operated under the assumption girls simply don't poop...and I don't want that ruined for me when I still actually like having sex.

I was banging this girl a few months ago and then she started talking about her bowel movements and I believe I deleted her from my phone that night...

Steve visited a few weeks ago and hooked up with an old booty call...said she 'squeeked' one out in the morning...gross. Girls are gross. I'm done with girls. On to dudes!

oh, like that would stop me, given my track record for ex boyfriends turned gay!!!

Please don't start a "Grade his muff" thread.

No, it's not.

Baths at the age of 2 with the opposite sex can turn into long nightmares,I had a bitch that stalked me into high school after one of those"just friend baths"

thanks mom and dad

I like sleeping with only one man at a time, and it's easier if he's in the same bed with me.

I don't know about that...

I mean, I used to operate under the same reasoning...but lately I've started piling up a lot of friends that are girls that I have no intentions on sleeping with...

But yeah, in the case of ol' rustshack...that girl is already ****ing that guy. I guarantee it.

All he'd have to do is sneak in to her place, grab her phone, look through her text messages...he'll get all the evidence he needs.

I can't stress to any of you ENOUGH about girls with "boyfriends"...the last two girls I've actually dated HAD boyfriends the first time I had sex with them...and they probably had sex with 150 dudes behind my back as well (and I probably did the same to them)...

Life is much more fulfilling when you operate like me...no morals, no convictions...shit, it's my world, all you homos are just living in it!

who's talking about sleeping here?

Did she carry the picture of it around, have it posted on her locker door, perhaps with a heart drawn around the two of you?!!!

Dude, one of these days you're going to get burned, karma's a bitch.