Caught my woman cheating.
 

Ex-Boyfriend.
Crazy history. Never Met him.

Been together 6 years.
Love her Madly.
Have a 4 year old with autism together.

God damn I'm hurting.

Don't want to do anything crazy.
10 years ago he would be in the hospital.
Gotta be smarter/better than that.

Not handling these emotions well....

Start drinking heavily. Very sorry dude.

So sorry man, that shit hurts the most.

Be strong for your child.

Already on it. Thanks.

Whatever happens, don't let the bitch make you think it's your fault. So sorry to see this...

Ah, shit. Hang in there tribe.

Will do. Thanks, my friend.

Don't go overboard. Hide you phone and your keys.

Sucks dude. Happy Valentines day...

Damn dude thats tough. Just keep emotions in check take a week away if can gather thoughts and they have the talk about what direction you both are going. Good luck.

I'm trying.

Women. Can't love them, can't kill them.

What's the deal now? You kick her out? Did you leave the house? Did you Uber wherever you went so you won't have to deal with a DUI?

She's with her sister..I'm at home

Yes you can.

- OJ

Ugh. I know these words don't mean much...but you are better off knowing this now than later so you can do what you need to do to get away from her. Use the anger and hurt as fuel that burns and drives you to improve your life and yourself. Don't take her back in matter how much she begs. Don't talk to her unless it's business or about your daughter. Keep it polite but clear that you want zero to do with her. Cheaters are the worst people. Watch your ATM and credit...etc. She probably cheated on you other times too...with people you know. Be thankful you found out. Good luck. It might take a while, but you'll be way better off in the long term.

Be the man your daughter deserves.

As far as your "woman" is concerned, she doesn't deserve you.

Damn man sorry to hear this. Don't do anything stupid. Stay strong for the little one.

Dude, I am so sorry.

Just remember, it's not about you, it's about her.

My kids are going to bed in 2 hours. PM me if you're up and want to chat and I'll shoot you my phone number.

As if shit wasn't hard enough.

Crazy thing is our sex life is Fn awesome.

It's one of those situations like in Casino with DeNiro and Sharon stone and James woods.
I don't ****ing get it.

Dude is a ****ing troll. POS.

I'll never understand.

Go hit a slump buster and lawyer up to get custody

Sucks dude. Don't overdo it, don't drive nowhere, don't do anything regretable.

Feel bad for ya'. A breakup is very painful. But 6 years together and have a child? You shoulda' married her. JMO but don't have all details.

Go out and run real hard or work out real hard. It will take time. Are you willing to forgive and give her another chance?

All of these

**** no

Marrying is an awful idea

Yeah, if you are gonna drink (and I don't blame you for wanting to), be careful. Remember you still have a lot to lose.

Just always think about your daughter. Her happiness, and what it means to you.

Good luck, my man.

Thanks, man.

I put my son to bed an hr or so ago. I'm not far behind him.

I'm a light weight when it comes to drinking. I'm already drowsy.

I think all the crazy is behind in this day and age.

Just gotta deal with the pain. Not at risk to do anything nuts.......I think..

If you can't sleep, PM me.

Tomorrow's Valentine's Day so my little girls are the priority but tomorrow evening, I'll be able to chat.

Take care of yourself and be well. I know this is heartbreaking but stay strong and reach out if you feel like you're faltering. It doesn't need to be me or this forum, just reach out to someone, whether it's a friend or family.

Damn, dude. Hang in there. You won't realize it now, but this is the best thing for you. Don't let it harden your heart; just realize that it's better you found out now, rather than later.

I feel for you, dude. I've been in this situation more times than I care to admit. The Army has that kind of an effect on a relationship. You'll get it sorted out.

This for me as well.

None of these words of wisdom mean shit right now, I know. But please listen to the concern for your safety. Cheaters always come out on the short end anyway and ex's, hers and yours, are ex's for a reason.

Wtf is this? How does this help anything?

If there is any point in which you think you're losing it, reach out.

Please.

Haven't had my heart broken since my HS sweatheart.

I left the earth scorched, beaten and bloody behind me.

It didn't help anything.........

Sorry, man. Continue to keep the welfare of your son in mind and continue to be the better person. There is someone better out there for you.

So sorry to hear this, tribe. Hang in there, man. I know it sounds stupid now, but somehow/someway things will work out for you. Just gotta go slow for a while and stay strong. Good luck, and remember, CP is here for you. Take care.

Thanks, man.

Goodnight, everyone. I gotta lay down....

Thanks to everyone.

I mean it.

Heartbreak makes the man, whether it's the career or the woman.

You'll bounce back strong, of that I have no doubt.

The real issue is now, today. Call all of your bro's and if they're unavailable, continue chatting here.

Talking this shit out is more than half the battle. You know that you have a lot to say, so just say it.

If you can't say it here, fire up your PC or Mac or Device and start typing away so that you say it.

Say it, Brotha, say it. Let it all out.

You may not even remember what you typed in the morning but you'll get a good night's rest and peace of mind by just letting it all out in a productive yet passive way.

We're all here for you, Dude.

Crap :( how did you find out?

Sorry to hear bud. From my experience things never get better after someone cheats. Rip it off like a band aid. I know it's tougher when a child is involved. Just IMHO from what little I know.

Don't do anything foolish and /or make any rash decisions. Your emotions are running high. Try and step away from the situation and think but don't obsess. Deal with what hurts you the most and you will be stronger for it and better able to deal with things - one way or the other. I'd lean towards the other...

I am so very sorry to hear this. Stay strong and know that you are a great father to your children.

I hope you don't take her back. You deserve better.

Good luck

I agree with Dane..don't go into a shell..lean on us or whoever you can.

Sorry Tribe. In the end it all works out. Tomorrow might seem like you are in a dark place, but in reality its the first day towards something better.

Be safe, kid comes first. Then you. No one else matters.

FDB

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As i mentioned previously, I have been in this situation a few times. Here is my favorite recovery story:

I was dating a girl while in the Army and she phased up before me. She was able to go off post, wear civilian clothes, get weekend passes, and drive a car. I was left in the barracks with a cerfew.

My best friend phased up with her. I felt he would look out for her for me and be a decent friend. I was wrong.

I finally phased up, after some rocky moments in our relationship. We took a "break" but she asked me to join her on a Friday night with my best friend and I thought things were improving.

We went to a hookah bar, smoked, drank, and had a genuinely great time. We went back to the rented hotel room we all paid for to drink down cheaper beer and bullshit. This is where all hell broke loose.

I kid you not, within 30 minutes, the girl I cared about started making out with my best friend right in front of me. It eventually escalated to their clothes coming off, at which point I gathered my shit and got the **** out of there before I went to jail.

This was a tough one to recover from; my girlfriend of 2 years before the Army cheated on me with my best friend, saying that she missed me and my friend reminder her of me. Bullshit. So here I was again.

This time around I took a different stance: I would kill them with kindness. I was the only one with a car. They had the balls to ask me on occasion to take them to a hotel for the weekend. I obliged with every ounce of my soul writhing.

To make a long story short, I kept this up for some time, and it eventually are away at their relationship. With me being their chauffeur, I got to witness it firsthand. Karma at its finest.

These things make me who I am today, and I know, without a doubt, I can handle some shit. I wish you the best, bro. Hang in there.

Its about whats best for you and the kid moving forward now. The trust is gone, time to move onward and upward from here.

Your girl cheated on you?

Oh, after 6 years and a kid? Well you should have married her.

/woman logic

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Use this as leverage. You will rise from this like a phoenix from the ashes.

One of the keys to getting over a breakup smoothly is to avoid all contact- it needs to be a CLEAN cut. Embrace the change, you'll grow so much from this man, I ****ing believe in you.

Also remember to keep your self-value high during this process, if you let it go down, that's when it becomes really really tough. The more your self value goes down, the weaker you become. The weaker you become, the more you need the girl back. Focus on bettering yourself and your daughter- in fact make that your sole purpose from here on out- that alone will turn you into a ****ing beast in no time.

Goodluck my man my thoughts are with you.

Shoot the mother****er.

Pea is a psycho

And a worthless ****.

No, make her pay you child support

Long haul bro long haul

Maybe you should not post this stuff on a message board... Your girl went crazy, you are probably drunk. Delete this account and lawyer up. Just my drunken advice.

Yup.

Bullshit. This is a great outlet. I did the same when I lost my job and it was a big help.

No one would give a shit if you posted something like this though so I get your dickness.

Not being a dick. This is a paper trail.

He might have to kill a person.

Of a guy venting his emotions on a message board? Hardly incriminating.

Sorry to hear about this, but it's an opportunity for you. Move on, live well, and find someone better. It's a big world and there'll always be someone better.

Which, as pointed out earlier, is very helpful. My apologies for the dick comment. Just don't belittle the man's situation please.

One thing men don't handle as well as women, IMO, is breakups. And this one sucks big time for a man. He's mad in love dude.

Cut her ass off. Only thing that really sucks is that you had a kid with the bitch.

Did she swallow? Are you sure that the kid is yours? Did this whore blow the entire front line of the Chiefs?

she did some thing wrong for sure but you werent married.
Kind of takes away from the whole commitment thing.

but yeah,let it go and dont do anything the law can really take hold of because they dont care about your emotions.

Leverage the kid and bang her sister or best friend.

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Just my opinion bro.
I'm a loser and don't know any women anyway.
All a bunch of stuck up bitches in my world

You are a b!tch.

JMO

For what?

Cheating?

Yeah, like that never happens to anyone.

Chances are, if you are in a relationship, you've been cheated on or have been the cheater.

Like this is some shocking ****ing thing or something.

Kill a person for cheating...the whole planet would basically be dead if this was the solution.

You might want to step back from this thread and take a breather.

You aren't helping.

Sorry to hear man. Its going to be rough but time will heal. Stay strong. You have a daughter that loves and looks up to you.

I find that hard to believe Smelly. You got a broad and eclectic taste in music. Girls dig that.

Don't tease me with your lies.

It's got me laid three times this past month and I've got a big ass horseshoe scar on the side of my head and a strip of hair that's been nuked away.

The playlist works.

(And by three times, I meant three different girls. Not three times total.)

Do you do the whole Rob Lowe - About Last Night - dual headphones - thing?

I'm not saying that it hasn't been done.

And there is a reason why I've got two really nice pair of headphones.

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