More like perplexities...:D

Especially when your kids are 25, 22 & 5. :eek:

My dad would get super drunk and punch me in the face when I was 3. But I love him so theres no way it was abuse. My mom shot me in the face and I turned out fine.

....great memory.

I don't disagree at all.

I had this friend who told his kid over and over to stay out of the ****ing street. Over and over. He tried all the other things. The last time she did it was the ONLY TIME he's spanked her, and he told her before 'next time you do that I"m going to whip your butt."

She never tried that shit again.

Life is messy. There is no 'always correct' way to do anything that involves human interaction, but there are things that are always wrong. Like switching a 4 year old until his scrotum is bleeding.

Amen.

WTF!

No shit. I definitely think some kids just need an ass whooping there. No way around it.

The main issue is that, like everything, some people just take it too far.

He kept his meeting for a cat o'nine beating

I have a ton of patience with my son but sometimes he just don’t get it, so he gets it... Once flat handed right on the ass.

I think he went too far with the switch bit I don't really have a problem with the belt. I don't know. He needs to tone down how hard he does it because he's stronger than 90% of people in the world and probably doesn't realize how bad he's really spanking the kid, but I don't think he should have to stop all together just because other people in the world disagree with spankings.
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Damn. A stihl, too. You know there was no chance you were gonna get lucky and have that mother****er not start or something. They're too damn reliable.

If your dad would have just owned a craftsman, you'd be a much shittier person due to lack of weed eater lashings.

This. He took it too far leaving marks and opening skin. That's what the problem is for me. Not that he whooped his kid.
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I got hit with a paddle by my (old school - southern - kinda racist) stepdad. It sucked. The rule was it happened every time I lied, and it went up one whack each time. I think I made it up to 6 or 7. The only one I really remember is when I lied for absolutely no reason, and knew all day I was going to get paddled at 6pm or so when my stepdad got home.

Who the hell knows how that affected me. I would never hit my kid with anything. I even think yelling - which my real dad did constantly to me and my mom - is a form of child abuse.

However we're basically a generation removed from this being insanely common. And somehow civilization still plowed ahead. Although you could argue that's what's wrong with the baby boomers.

Anyway I'm all for shaming AP into stopping. But I think there are degrees of child abuse.

My stepdad kinda sucked - but he was legitimately doing what he thought would make me a better person. He also taught me my love of the outdoors and how to work for what you want - which I am insanely grateful for. If my work habits were anything remotely like my study habits, I would be the biggest loser you ever met. I completely owe that to his influence in my formative years (8-14 or so). He definitely gave out much better than he got (which was as dysfunctional as you can possibly imagine). To me that's the definition of heart.

When I'm not holding court in DC on the weekends, I'm giving my kids the attention they need whooping they ass into men.

I agree with physical punishment it might save the kid's life (maybe) or when the kid is being aggressive themselves (and big enough to do damage). That's the only time.