Yes, far from over.

That's the kind of advice I can use.

Some one is seeing a silver lining. Good on you.

Your STB ex will feel the same way.

Just to be clear.

I'm a huge advocate of 2nd chances. Even for this guy.

If he has his shit together and she wants to be with him. I think I'll actually be happy for her.

But taking on the full brunt of my son's needs is going to make her have a nervous breakdown.
I'm afraid if I'm too nice she's gonna be calling me for help non-stop. And that will piss me off.
She has ALWAYS put her needs education/ career ahead of mine, and I have always been there to handle the weight of the world.

Hope he's gotta strong back.

Not everything that shimmers is Gold. It's all good though. Good experiences. It will hurt like a bitch for awhile like a muscle strain, but then you rehab and then you come out stronger than ever. You will make sure the next gal is a good fit for you and her. Then you will be fullfilled.

The rebirth of beach tribe has begun!

It's important to note that being honest to a group of good dudes helps the good dudes as well. I know lots of times life is just ho hum, but someone actually trying to do the right thing, trying to give a ****, brings out inspiration in me. It also reflects on times when I was out on the grind and shit was ****ed up. Good on you man.

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Jesus. Its like reading my Bio with my X

If & when you decide you want custody of your son.
,......................and you will
You will destroy her in a court room. No judge is gonna look at her move to be with a crack head prison rat as a positive move for your son.

Again...Your posts today with the X are quite similar to what I went through ten years ago. I have custody and the bitch pays me $600.00 a month

Just don't do anything stupid... don't 'leave trails' that can be used against you. Take the high road, keep details of everything, stay positive and do the right thing.

Yes keeping your mouth shut and letting your attorney do his or her job is of the up most importants.

Edit/// I did keep notes. I wrote everything down on paper. To this day those notes are locked up in my gun vault

The silver lining here is that you get to focus on your kid 100%. And that's a good thing. You can dump all the love and affection and attention you can on them without worrying about the secondary affects of sharing that with someone else.

Take all you can from that. It makes you better and your kid better.

I wouldn't worry too much about what "they" do. Just focus on your kid.

And she'll be calling you non-stop because that's what she's come to expect. Make sure that she's responsible for her parenting time, but take every chance to be with your kid that you can. You don't ever get that time or opportunity back and they are what is important now, not you (or moreso anyway).

And, for the record, most nurses are ****ing bat shit crazy. One has the tendency to think "Oh, the medical field...blah, blah, blah." Nope. Completely ****ing insane as a group.

Wanted to post the exact same thing, but didnt want to needlessly make things contentious

But if its me?

Oh yeah

All texts saved, make notes of anything and everything said in phone calls with dates and times etc etc etc

Tribe, I gotta admit, you are handling this far better than I would.

I'm just trying to be strong, brother.

I've climbed high, fallen all the way to depths of hell, fought my way out and then climbed higher than ever.

Just time to it all again.

Bring it on.